Never put your life on hold waiting for someone else
Are you waiting for others to make a move so that you can then make a move? If so, it means that you are playing a game of chess and you are waiting for your opponent to move his knight so that he can checkmate. However, if you’re not playing chess, then there’s really no reason to put your life on hold because you’re waiting for someone to make a move on you or your life. One of the biggest reasons for resentment in any type of relationship is the sacrifice that an individual makes for family, for a spouse, partner, or for a job and receives nothing in return. We listen to half-truths, empty promises, insinuations, and then we delude ourselves with expectations.
Now what happens when we realize that those promises were empty? Your hopes and dreams are violently rushed to the ground where they are shattered. Now you are left with a series of questions: why, why, why? You start to drive yourself crazy wondering what happened and when that question has no answer, you start to lose control wondering how people can treat others with such little consideration.
Now here’s the hard truth and believe me, I’ve had a hard time swallowing. The hard truth is that if someone can get away with walking in and out of your life and doing whatever they please knowing you’re not going anywhere, they’ll take advantage of your free time. You have a lot of free time on your hands if someone can walk in and out of your life whenever they want and you keep bringing them back with whatever new excuse of the day they give you. I bet if you were busy in your life making yourself, others wouldn’t be able to hijack your precious time. Because when you have some free time in your busy life, you save it very fondly.
Now maybe you are saying that it is selfish not to be there for others and you will be right. However, it is also selfish not to be selfish to yourself. I’ve learned it the hard way. He was always doing for everyone and everyone was very happy with it. I put my life on hold to be for others, while those others were quite happy to be for themselves and quite happy taking and taking and taking some more of me without thinking about the sacrifices I made for them. They treated me horribly because I was “doing it for them”. The moment I realized how much of myself I had sacrificed over the years and how many of my dreams I had put on hold for others and began to be myself, the knives, the axes sharpened and the blows began. to arrive quickly. But I promised myself that I will never sacrifice my life again, hoping and doing for others and putting my life and dreams on hold.
The thing is, while you put your life on hold waiting for others, they are happy in their lives knowing that you are there when they are ready to use you or clean your dirty feet. Worse still when they laugh at you and your so-called “stuck life”. They don’t even realize that your life is stuck because you were doing it for them. What is worse, they will throw you in the face that they never asked you for anything.
There is nothing more rewarding than living your life for you, no matter how many people don’t like you for it. You shouldn’t be living an ordinary life. Instead, he lives an extraordinary life. You deserve it and it’s your birthright. You only have one life to live, so live it boldly and beautifully and watch your world become dynamic. You will find that the people who once loved you will now hate you because you are no longer sacrificing your life for them. They may even try to block your life’s progress, however, you are the captain of your lifeboat and you can change the compass of your life in any direction you choose.
Always treat your life and time as precious and when you do you will not allow anyone to violate your time and life. If someone expects you to put your life on hold and tend to them, appreciate where they are in their life, however you should respect your life and keep it moving. If you want to serve someone, make sure your life is not sacrificed. Do it because you want to and not because of empty promises, half-truths and insinuations.
Don’t give yourself away for someone else. You are just as important. So value your life and your time. If others want to be a part of your life, they must respect and value your time and your life. Busy yourself in your life with your dreams and goals so that when others come in contact with you, you will know immediately if they are with you and for you or if they are traveling in a different direction. That way, no one’s time is wasted or sacrificed. You will start to feel happier with yourself because now you are fulfilling your dreams and goals instead of sacrificing yourself for others.
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