7 signs that you may be too negative in your relationship
Your brain tends to repeat familiar things over and over again, going back and forth along established neural pathways. If what is repeated is negative, you will be a negative person, and you may not realize it, but your partner and others do. Negativity will hinder you in all your relationships. Damage your connections with everyone. If you grew up in a family that was generally negative, you may not realize or notice that you are still radiating that energy. One sure way to tell is in the reactions of people close to you.
The good news is that you can take charge of your negative thoughts (that’s totally under your control) and turn them on their head: argue with them, fight them, fight with them. Put energy on it. Let go of everything you can’t control, like other people, life events, loss, disappointment. Stop trying to change what will not change, accept what is, let it be and live life as it is. I know it’s easier said than done, but once you get the hang of it, life itself is easier. Worrying about what you can’t control is an endless and useless waste of energy that you can use elsewhere. The only thing you can have complete control over is yourself and the way you relate. Change that, change everything.
7 signs that you may be too negative in your relationship
1. Your partner wants to tell other people what’s going on, but doesn’t tell you first: This may be because your reaction is negative and makes your partner depressed. For example, if your partner says he’s trying to get a promotion at work and you reply, “You might not get it.” That takes the joy out of you, and your partner is less likely to tell you about it next time.
2. You fight a lot and argue over small things: This may be because your negative attitude provokes a defensive attitude in your partner. If you tell your partner why their ideas are wrong, you are likely to have a fight.
3. You’re not having fun together If you’ve stopped doing what you used to do when you were first together, it may be because you said something negative. If you complain about the movie or the restaurant, your partner will be less likely to want to take you out again.
4. Your partner is not interested in sex or affection from you: If you have been too critical and negative, your partner may feel that you are not enjoying or appreciating it, so being intimate is not attractive.
5. You no longer receive gifts or flowers: If your partner brought you flowers or gifts and no longer, it may be because you were negative and critical of the flowers, the gifts or your partner. If you have daisies and say “Oh, I like roses better,” you may never have flowers again.
6. Your partner has stopped helping: If your partner used to cook for you, take care of your car, or tidy up the house and has stopped doing so, you probably haven’t said “thank you” enough, and have been very picky and critical instead. grateful. If you want to motivate your partner to help you, don’t complain, don’t complain, don’t complain. That will drive him away. Instead, be thankful, thankful, and thankful. Celebration + Appreciation = Motivation.
7. Your health suffers from stress: Many health problems are the result of chronic stress, which is caused or worsened by negative thinking and negative speech. If your health is suffering, you feel depressed; have high blood pressure and headaches or digestive problems, negative thoughts may be the cause. If your partner has similar conditions, you may be creating a negative environment between them.
Positive and happy people have an easier time in life and bounce back from problems faster. There are things you can do in each case to increase your level of optimism, even if you can’t change who you are. Whether you realize it or not, you are responsible for alleviating your own feelings and no one else is responsible for making you feel better.
To generate positive energy and gratitude, try the following suggestions: > Make a note: Write positive comments to yourself on your daily calendar about jobs well done or any accomplishments you want to celebrate. Your partner will also appreciate the little love notes or thank you notes left to surprise and delight.
> Look back to your childhood: Use activities that felt like a celebration in your childhood: did your family provide a champagne or sparkling cider celebration, a gathering of friends, or a prayer of thanks? Create a celebration atmosphere: use balloons, music, flowers, candles or set your table with the best porcelain. Work with your partner to incorporate the elements of celebration from your childhood. Buy silly things at a 99 cent store to make others laugh.
> Use visible reminders: Surround yourself with visible evidence of your successes. Plant a commemorative rose bush or get a new houseplant to mark a job well done, or display photos of fun events and sports or hobby trophies. It is a constant reminder that you appreciate yourself and your partner and that you will both feel it on a daily basis.
> Reward each other: Go out for ice cream, high five, toast champagne or ginger ale in fancy glasses, take a day off just the two of you, and party whenever you get the chance.
> Try laughter – find a way to laugh with your partner every day. Share jokes, funny memories, comedy movies and internet jokes. It will lower your blood pressure, calm your pulse, and generally help you release a lot of stress.
It takes work to turn a negative outlook into a positive one, but it’s worth it, even if you need therapy to do it. It will create so much happiness and pleasure in your life that you will be glad you did.
