Women are naturally sexually passive with a lover
Imagine a woman who is more like a man. She approaches sex already aroused and gets aroused by stimulating a lover. She caresses and kisses the body of her lover from head to toe. She concentrates on her penis and gives him fantastic oral sex. Where would the human race be now if women behaved like this? Most men would ejaculate before having sex.
Men assume that it is their role to give the woman the orgasm that she cannot give herself. However, this is a fallacious thought because orgasm occurs as a result of stimulating tumescence caused by our own mental arousal. Men are proactive because they are sexually aroused. If a woman was aroused by a lover, she would be motivated to get his own stimulation from her. The sexual passivity of women, which results from her lack of arousal, allows a man to assert his own sexual needs. Intercourse provides male release and optimizes reproduction, but it has nothing to do with achieving female orgasm.
Initially, a man may offer pleasure other than intercourse, but over time men focus more and more on intercourse because women do not respond positively to other pleasures. Women reject manual stimulation of the clitoris, which is too sensitive. Many women dislike the idea of cunnilingus. Even if she allows her lover to stimulate her clitoris with her tongue, the woman feels almost no sensation and little pleasure. The lack of sensitivity of women ensures that sexual activity is focused on intercourse.
Given the lack of arousal for women, a woman does not have a sexual agenda to approach sexual activity with a lover. Whatever stimulation a man provides, a woman has little interest in knowing the explicit details. A woman closes her eyes and lets a man explore her body as she sees fit. Women simply accept or reject the stimulation that men offer.
Men’s sexual drive provides much greater motivation (in the short term) to initiate intimate interaction with others. Men accept failed attempts as a natural aspect of being a man. If a man doesn’t want to have sex with her, it’s hard for a woman to persuade him. A woman learns that if a man doesn’t find her attractive then there is no point in her approaching him.
Women rarely dictate sexual activity with a man. Even prostitutes provide what a customer asks for. Some women may initially explore a lover’s body to give pleasure. But in the long run, women lack the motivation to be sexually proactive because they’re not turned on. A woman naturally assumes a supportive role by accepting the pleasure a man offers based on the excitement she enjoys exploring her body. The easiest role for a woman is to cooperate with intercourse for as long as the man needs to ejaculate.
A woman is naturally in the position of having something sexual done to her (especially penetration). A woman cannot penetrate or fertilize a lover. She can only be penetrated and impregnated by a man. In the early days, novelty meant the automatic arousal of a man so that a woman could enjoy being the object of her desire without having to contribute much. She may feel pampered instead of needing to act like the concubine who is focused on helping with male arousal. This also explains why rape fantasies are popular with women. Here it is important to distinguish between the reality of rape (a brutal act) and the fantasy of being taken by a man (an act of submission).
What is the anatomy involved in the female orgasm? What erotic arousals does a woman need for orgasm? These are basic questions that confuse most heterosexuals. Most men appreciate that their partners don’t masturbate. Some men say their partners use a vibrator, but are unaware of the research finding that most sexual activities women engage in do not end in orgasm. Although men initiate intercourse, women are also supposed to orgasm due to intercourse because this is the only sexual activity that women engage in. Straight people assume that the vagina is the female sexual organ because it is usually the only female anatomy that is stimulated. The conclusion that women don’t have orgasms never seems to occur to anyone.
There are many slang terms for intercourse that are sexually explicit. The activity is called fucking. The verb fuck is commonly used because it very succinctly reflects the male urge to push into a vagina until ejaculation. Hitting and fucking tend to offend women because they emphasize women’s passive role as objects to be penetrated. Fucking can be used as a more mutual term and implies that a woman can be more proactive in helping with penile stimulation. However, the vast majority of women prefer the term lovemaking, which men also use in the presence of women, knowing that it is a less explicit way of referring to copulation.
We say that a man makes love to a woman. We do not say that a woman makes love to a man. First of all, the acute arousal of men when approaching sex means that they focus primarily on penile stimulation. Making love involves non-genital activities, such as talking about love, caressing, stroking, kissing, and massaging the breasts, buttocks, and other non-genital areas. Making love is an activity that a man uses especially with an inexperienced woman or at the beginning of a relationship as a step prior to intercourse. A man does not make love to a prostitute because her consent has already been agreed.
…women are generally less erotically receptive than men, and for that reason…take the lead less often in any sexual game. (Alfredo Kinsey 1948)
