How to word your invitation when asking guests to pay their way
That would be a “hostless” dinner. You can offer appetizers, soft drinks, wine or beer and then have guests pay for their main dinner. Add cake or dessert as a host. Depending on the number of people and how close they are to you, you could just call them.
So would you say,
“We are organizing a party for John at La Casita restaurant, Wednesday October 14 at 6 pm
6-7 Cocktail hour (Appetizers served)
7-9 Dinner without a host
9-1 Celebration Dessert
Call to let us know:
Kind of… If you don’t provide anything like appetizers and dessert, I wouldn’t call it an invite. The word Invitation denotes that the host is dealing with something.
That kind of gathering would just need a postcard saying, “We’re getting together for a Dutch candy dinner to celebrate John’s birthday.” Date, time, etc. and phone number to call to RSVP Yes or No.
It is better to spend less money on invitations and decorations, etc. and treat people to coffee and dessert (for those who don’t want to dine). Just say, “How lucky can I be?” “As a birthday present and I’d love for you to bring me a Scratch-Off ticket. I’ll split my winnings with you!”
That’s a lot of fun, and it’s a good way to minimize guest anxiety about “not” bringing a gift. That’s always a bit awkward for some.
I think it’s okay to ask guests to pay for their trip. You will have organized the event for them and you are creating the day to bring people together. On the invitations, explain the day’s activities and say that you would love them to be there with the family, but for the day to be a success each guest will need to pay for their ticket and this is required by the cruise staff. to prepare for the number of attendees. It is not sticky at all. If guests don’t want to pay, they’ll miss out.
First, you won’t call it an “invite” or use the words “guest” since you’re asking for payment. It has to be an “ad”.
I would call it a “no host” or “Dutch deal” event.
“We would like to announce that we will be honoring ‘whoever’ at a Dutch Treat dinner at the date and time, at the venue.”
Include dinner reservation card with prices and selections. . . when they return it, you will know how many people will be there.
I don’t advise people to let you know and then pay at the door. You probably have a problem with people not showing up and having booked/confirmed a dinner that you will have to pay for.
The best and most correct plan, however, is to invite all the guests to a celebration that includes cake, coffee, champagne, etc. an hour after dinner like 8:30 and includes a card for those who want to come at 6:00 and pay for their dinner. That way you give everyone a true invitation and opportunity to come and be with you to honor your father-in-law. At 8:30 with a full audience, special presentations and tributes can be made, etc. Tables are set for dinner guests and additional tables for dessert guests only.
