Avoid Divorce – Expressing your feelings is just as important as showing them with actions!
In many marriages, husbands rarely express their feelings towards their wives, believing that their actions speak volumes for them. Do their wives agree with them and are they okay with it?
That’s fine for some women who aren’t the vocalizing type. However, for many other women, that doesn’t sit well. For them, hearing loving words from their husbands assures them of the love they want from their husbands, and they enjoy hearing them out loud most of the time. And when husbands reinforce these loving words with actions, they truly put their wives on cloud nine.
The truth is, words can make you feel wonderful, just as they can make you feel terribly down, and can even kill you spiritually or emotionally. Words cost us nothing, but they can have a huge impact on us. Fights or arguments are normal in any relationship, so why are there arguments that don’t affect the love between two people and are there arguments that erode the wonderful feelings they have for each other?
One of the reasons why arguments harm the couple’s relationship is that hurtful, demeaning, humiliating, disrespectful, insulting, hateful words are said to each other. These negative words leave negative residue in your mind, in your heart; and, eventually, their repetitions of these words in arguments will accumulate this residue to the level that the love they once felt for each other is just a small pile of dirt compared to the huge mound of this murderous residue.
We can’t control what others say, but we can definitely control what we say. We cannot use them irresponsibly just because words cost us nothing. We can enhance our marriage with words that make each other feel uplifting, appreciated, important, useful, and especially loved; So let’s watch our words.
