Welcome to Parenting Teenagers
Do you still cringe when your teenager expressed a desire to go to the ED Sheeran concert? Welcome to being a parent of a TEEN! Start a new journey, but be sure to take a detour from old mindsets, patterns, and conversations with parents.
The onset of puberty sets up a myriad of new challenges for an adolescent. Suddenly, his personality is changing. The choice of color is no longer the same. They have more interest in music and fashion. New dimensions and opportunities are presented to you. They know many things that make us feel old. In fact, this is a sign to understand that our upbringing needs a little adjustment. Parenting a teen can sometimes add to your stress. As you tackle new topics, it should be noted that they are also full of what’s new in all fields. Your body is changing, your attitude is altering, academics are expanding and you are facing decision-making in every field.
I would strictly recommend being a ‘friendly parent’ and NOT a friend to your child. We often say: ‘We are friends with our son’. The problem here is that they have mixed feelings when you correct them for one or two things, whereas a friend would always agree with their actions. Children drink watching. We all have to walk the talk. What is still a ‘NO’ should be just that. It is always good to give a reason why it is rejected. When objecting to the teen, be careful about your choice of words. It hurts and they may not show it. But deep down they are all little kids. They still need sweet praise and approving smiles. Encourage them in the best way so they know you are always there for them.
Family time with the teen is very important. Try to do more interesting things. Allow them to be independent with managing their wardrobe and school work. Hold a door open (in your mind) to help them and encourage them to come to you with a problem. It is good to be careful with the words we use as they bring us your concerns. Give them a tip or two on how to be safe when out with a friend or a group. The ‘GOOD TOUCH and BAD TOUCH’ sermon makes them uncomfortable now, but that’s one more step towards togetherness. Love and respect will continue forever.
