The Hotwife Lifestyle – 3 Secrets to Making It Work!
For many couples, the Hotwife lifestyle is a lifeline to their marriage, which could seem counterintuitive when you consider the pain, heartache, and problems that infidelity often causes in a marriage. But…
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It is NOT the same as ordinary infidelity.
Let me explain: when someone is having an ‘affair’, it usually means that they are doing it behind the other’s back. And that means there is something very mistaken between them for that to happen.
But for a woman to be a hotwife is different, because she not only does it with the consent and full knowledge of her husband… but generally she is doing it with her approval and urgent!
Now, for many men and women, that will make them throw up their arms in horror. And that’s okay, because no one is suggesting that someone do something they don’t want to do.
But the fact is that having a hot wife is the hottest fantasy of many men, and their real problem is often expressed like this: “How can I get my wife to sleep with other men without her thinking I’m weird, perverted, or just not in love with her anymore?“.
And it’s a good question because the knee-jerk reaction of many women is a feeling of loss and almost abandonment; in fact, many of them think that the man is asking them to do it Hey then you can have another partner, but the truth is that most men do not want this at all. What they want is for their wives to include them in hotwiving, to the extent that they want to watch, listen, hear everything, or even join.
However, it’s still not without its potential issues, especially in the early days. So with that in mind, based on my own experience as the husband of my own hot wife over the past 7 years, here are three tips to help make things go better:
- Always put your partner in the #1 position. By this I mean that it is vital that you see a clear distinction between a sexual partner and a relationship. If there is ever any pressure from her lover to exclude the man in any way, then the ground rules must clearly and unequivocally see marriage as most important. In other words, the lover has to go!
- Don’t expect the “same things”. As a man, it’s not worth worrying about what she might be doing for him or with him that she isn’t doing for you or with you. It’s not a competition and everyone has different likes and dislikes, and each couple’s sexual dynamics are different as well. What you should focus on is getting what YOU need and forget about what someone else is getting.
- Any of you should be able to say ‘stop’. Things change, and people too. So it’s important that either one of you have the power of veto, whether over an individual man, a potential lover, a situation or event, or even the entire hot wife lifestyle. It’s a recipe for disaster to have a situation where the man is uncomfortable with the boy he’s taken to be her lover and she, in effect, tells him it’s “bad luck.”
If you can follow these three simple guidelines, then the hotwife lifestyle might be right for you. But be careful with your sources of information. It IS a potential minefield, and one worth treading carefully. My wife, Josselyn, and I have been in the lifestyle for the last 7 years and, aside from a few hiccups, it’s been a lot of fun.
