My Wife Doesn’t Initiate Sex: The Terrible Truth You Might Not Want To Know About Your Wife And Sex
Are you in a marriage where your wife doesn’t initiate sex, but you really want her to?
Well, you’re not alone in this at all…it happened in my marriage, and in many (if not most) other men’s marriages as well.
But it doesn’t have to mean conflict in marriage, the end of marriage, or even the end of great sex in marriage if you do things right…
Why a wife doesn’t initiate sex…
Before we can solve a problem, we first have to understand that problem. When it comes to the problem of a wife not initiating sex, there are many things you need to know to realize that your marriage is not necessarily in trouble. But it also doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not in trouble. I’ll explain more about that in a minute.
But first let’s clear up a few things. Your wife isn’t initiating sex because… well… she’s not like you. She is wired differently than you. Just because he’s RTG (ready to go) as soon as he wakes up until he goes to bed doesn’t mean his wife will be. We guys get horny over every little thing every few seconds. It’s just the way we’re connected. We’re externally motivated for sex, so our brain drives our sex drive from a lot of imagery…and images are everywhere.
However, your wife is not like that. She doesn’t look at a banana and get horny in the same way that we can look at erect nipples on a mannequin and be RTG, or other simple things that make us almost Neanderthals. His wife is excited by the emotional circumstances. Intimacy, erotic stories, happiness, security…these are all the things that turn your wife on…and ironically they are the things that bore us to death.
So, unfortunately for all the men in the world who get upset because our wives don’t act like the women in porn and are RTG in the blink of an eye, or discovering a penis…we have to get over it. and learn to play the game.
We have to realize that if our wives feel things emotionally, then they’re not going to initiate sex with you because, frankly, they’re not going to be in the mood for it. In fact, the most we can hope for as husbands is that our wives will be up for it when we start, and take those single-digit times they start as a bonus.
You see, a lot of men will get mad at their wives, take it personally, and constantly pester their wives not to initiate sex, but do nothing to make the woman want more sex, let alone initiate it.
So this is where the problem lies. If your wife doesn’t initiate sex…or else she still doesn’t want to have sex when you initiate it, this could it means that she has some hidden negative thoughts (for you) about you and your marriage. Which means that her lack of sex and her wife’s lack of interest in her sex could be indications that her marriage is more troubled than she thinks. It could also mean that she would be much more willing and open to an affair with someone who actually made her feel more positive thoughts.
So if your wife doesn’t initiate sex, it could mean you’re doing things wrong. It could also mean that this is becoming a deep-seated problem in her marriage.
