How do you know when someone is in love with you?
When
We often have to ask ourselves, does he really love me? Are you really in love with me? Am I in love with him / her? I really love him? These are questions of the heart and only you know the answer. However, there are indicators that help us understand the answer to our question of being in love and know when someone is in love with us.
When there is a question, there is undoubtedly an answer. It may not be the answer we are looking for, but there is an answer. The key to receiving the answer is being able to accept the truth. Sometimes we don’t want to know the truth because it hurts. It hurts because we want things our way, just as we dream. Unfortunately, life cannot always be the dream we want it to be. Sometimes, maybe most of the time for most of us, life is not the dream we want at all, or anything like that. It is important to understand that love does not love anyone, it only loves love. This is why it is so easy to fall in love and so difficult to stay in love. Love is! And that’s it. The Bible says that there is no greater love than this, that a man lay down his life for his friend (John chapter 15 verse 13). If this is an indicator that someone is in love, then we should be able to answer the question, “Would I die for him / her?” and “would he / she die for me?”
Often in relationships, people forget to embrace the truth of who they are and therefore cannot understand each other well enough to answer questions about love. For example, I’ve often asked someone I was very interested in this question: “What was it you didn’t know about the person you just broke up with that you learned later in the relationship?” If a person is really sincere about this, they would say exactly what they learned along the way that they did not know at the beginning of the relationship. Often times it is these things that we discover later about a person that make us change our mind about being with them. The answer I usually get is, “I can’t answer that question.” Or “Do I have to think about that?” This indicates that there is nothing they did not know from the beginning. The next question I usually ask is even more provocative and to the point: “Did you pay attention to what you knew about the person or did you think you could or would change them later in the relationship?” The answer to this is always: “I thought things would change.” The point here is that if you are honest with yourself and the person you care about, and really pay attention to who you are and what it is about, you would not allow yourself to enter into relationships where you have to change something about someone or wait for them to change. something about themselves. This goes to that old “Be true to yourself” cliche. This is not to say that people do not change, but that change should be for the better, not for the worse.
You see, honestly answering the questions above will give you the power to accept the truth about yourself. When you know the truth about yourself, it will also allow you to deal with others more honestly and truthfully. Now here’s the tricky part, can you ask someone you have a crush on this question and accept their answer? When you decide that you are in love with someone, does that mean that they must be in love with you? If so, then you are not really in love, you need a hug. You cannot force anyone to fall in love with you. This is what causes many marriages to fail, people try to force themselves to fall in love and end up destroying the relationship. Being in love is something that should be voluntary. Some of the books on the topic of relationships and finding someone to fall in love with and making them fall in love with you are nothing more than a bad relationship cookbook. The famous game of love is just that, a game. You must bear in mind that, as in all games, there are winners and losers. However, you should also know that “love” is not a game, it is a lifestyle and you need to be able to commit to that lifestyle as a religion, with your partner, and in the same way your partner must be able to commit. for you in the same way.
How
There is nothing more than knowing if that man or that woman is in love with you or if you are in love with them. There is no secret, there is no game, there is only the truth. The truth is being willing to die for that person and that person is willing to die for you. Since then, that’s what marriage is all about: “Two people who die as individuals and become a new person together. Working together, bonding, pushing together, and being in love together forever.”
Now the term “die” does not mean that you will actually do it at some point and end your life. God willing, both of you will live a long time and be happy together. However, it does mean that when it comes to satisfying yourself and making others happy, you would put your inhibitions aside (kill your fears and worries) and do whatever it takes to make your partner and, in the same way, your partner happy. you must be able to do it. to do the same for you. If there is no reciprocity, there is no love. Reciprocity does not mean a quid pro quo. In other words, never get into a situation where you will only do what your partner will do for you. This is not Love. Sometimes you will give more than your partner and other times your partner will give more than you. So it will always be. There is no such thing as 50/50 love. Forget that Teddy Pendergrass song of yore, it just sounds good. When you find yourself giving more than your partner, remember, this is the person you are in love with and this person is in love with you. The Bible says that “charity covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter Chapter 4 Verse 8 KJV). The definition of “charity” is: lenient judgment of others. You must be willing and able to leniently judge the person you are in love with. Be willing to grow with your partner through communication when mistakes are made. This is an ongoing thing, it never ends as long as you both live.
Why
The Bible explains that the greatest thing is charity: “And now faith, hope and charity remain, these three; but the greatest of them is charity (I Corinthians, chapter 13, verse 13).” He also says: “And although I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and although I have all the faith, to move mountains, and have no charity, I am nothing” (I Corinthians, chapter 13). verse 2 KJV) “When you consider what charity brings to a relationship, if you can’t show charity to each other, but everything else is just wonderful, your relationship really is nothing.
Last but not least, a clear indicator that someone has a crush on you is when they can keep other people out of your personal relationship with them. Your friends and family may have good intentions, but you are not in love with them and apparently they cannot be in love with you as your partner. Otherwise, why do you need to be with your partner? Keep your friends and family, but keep them out of your relationship when it comes to making yourself and your partner happy. A good scripture for this is Matthew Chapter 6 verses 3 and 4: “But when you do a charity work, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your charity work is in secret; and your Father whoever sees in secret, he himself will reward you in public. “
It is not necessary for everyone to be a mentor or counselor in your relationship with your partner. Learn to keep the most intimate things between you and your partner to yourself. I’m not talking about abusive things, just personal things that should only be between the two of you.
You can tell when someone is in love with you when they are willing to consistently show charity and show disinterest towards you and your needs. This does not mean that you should take goodness for weakness. It would be a big mistake. Often times, people show charity and love for their partner, but the partner takes it for granted and simply begins to ignore the truth of true love. Love simply loves love and if love does not receive love back, it will soon find another love. Again, this is a way of being able to die for them and they should reciprocate willing to die for you (to die in the sense of putting aside their own selfishness to make you happy and that you can do the same for them) with joy.
